Let me explain. Before I met my husband, I had moved to Georgia alone, finished my MBA, had a good job and somehow always was the life of the party. I was sure that whoever my future husband was going to be, he was going to love God, have a couple of houses, be extremely business savvy, romantic and masculine. Sounds like a dream guy right?
Only my dream guy, didn’t have all of those things. I realized early on that I had to make adjustments and not to my standards. I had to help my husband meet his full potential so that we could meet our potential as a couple.
When the hubs and I first met, he was in between jobs. Normally, that would make me look the other way but
I noticed that even though he was in between jobs that didn’t mean that he was in between potential. Ashlee AdamsI noticed that even though he was in between jobs that didn’t mean that he was in between potential. He was a Great man and I saw that immediately. So instead of leaving him alone, and instead of lowering my standards, I saw who he was going to be and helped him in areas that he needed help in. I told him he needed to be in church. Now he is a Deacon. I told him that he must finish his degree and since I work in higher education I can help him. Now he is in college. He needed help with his resume because all he knew was his experience in football and a former NFL draft pick and coach but not how to put that in words for an employer. I helped him with that too. And in between all of my helping, he would rub my feet. He taught me how to play card games that we would stay awake and play all night long. He would make sure to buy my favorite items when he went shopping or straighten out my car when it was a mess. I realized that he wasn’t everything that I had dreamed of, but he was everything that I needed and that was so much better…
-He loved God for sure.
-Doesn’t own a couple of houses but we are working on that.
-Is becoming even more business savvy (he has no choice, I’m his wife)
-Has always been masculine…I mean he was in the NFL at one point.
-And the romance part is still who is he today.
But my point is simple. Hold on to your standards. Hold on to your expectations. But don’t ever discount someone who doesn’t check off your checklist because if you are in fact purposed to be his wife, some things can’t be done until you guys are linked together. If God created you guys to be in the lives of each other and to be ONE as a couple, that means he needs you to get to his full potential and vice versa. Ladies, have clear standards but don’t have standards SO HIGH that no one can meet them.